How many of you have had something change in your life that you never expected would change? Maybe you moved to a new state, or you had to change schools, maybe a best friend moved away or maybe something tragic like a divorce or a death in the family. The reality of it is life changes and sometimes it catches you off guard and that can be a difficult thing to deal with no matter how big or small.
So how do you deal with that?
Well let’s do what we are so use to doing when something happens and we need answers, lets Google how to deal with it. The first result we get gives us the 6 steps:
Step 1: Acknowledge and accept things.
I see where they are going with this and yes it can be good to not “fight the change”, but is this really the best thing to do first?
Step 2: Make a pros and cons list of the change.
Just….why? Because trying to find the positive things makes it easier for you to swallow.
Step 3: Focus on how the change changed you or your life for the better.
Did anyone else read step 3 just say to focus on yourself, because that’s what I read.
Step 4: Use creative mediums to come up with alternatives.
I’m just confused now...
Step 5: Spend time with your friends and family.
As much as I wanted to disagree with this whole article. This one isn’t bad.
Step 6: Consider seeking therapy if it’s a difficult change to adjust to.
I recommend seeking counsel from your pastor, youth leader, bible study teacher, mentor, ect.
What’s my point? What do all 6 of these steps have in common? They are all things to make you FEEL better about an uncomfortable or miserable situation. Is that a bad thing, not necessarily, no. Having a positive outlook can really help you through changes in life, but you have to remember that this is from the world’s perspective. The world tells you it is all about you and that’s why they tell you to make yourself feel better about bad situation.
Here is the really sucky part: it’s all on you to make yourself feel better. I don’t know about you but I’m not the best at being happy and this is a pretty big burden to carry around.
Now for the good news, You. Aren’t. Alone. I’m not talking about your therapist or your friends and family. You have a God on your side who cares. Yes maybe He is letting something unexpected happen but you can trust it is not because He wants to watch you suffer. James tells us that trials are there so that our faith may be strengthened. Sometimes it seems like we like to treat God like He doesn’t care since He allows us to go through hard things. That is not the case. Jesus tells us to come to him when we our going through trouble so he can give us rest in Matthew 11. And John 16:33 says “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” It’s pretty clear that Jesus is on our side and we are not alone.
So Here are my steps to dealing with unexpected change:
Step 1: Take your troubles to God through prayer.
Here is the great part about this, it’s not on you. As long as you are in prayer and fellowship with Christ, you can trust He is going to take care of you.
Step 2: Seek godly counsel.
After taking your troubles to God, seek counsel from those around you that you know will give you biblical advice on your situation.
Step 3: Remember results aren’t your job.
God doesn’t ask you to fix your situation, just that you are faithful in your time of trouble.
See, not only are my steps easier and focus on you way less, there is only half as many! I’ll leave you with this. Josh Snodgrass, who recently spoke at our church, told this story. His friend was working on a roof in Oregon, there was a lot of moss and the roof was wet and he slipped and his harness didn’t catch him. He damaged his leg severely and after long hospital stays and many surgerys they had to amputate it. For anyone this would be a devastating and very unexpected change. When Josh went to visit him he was trying to figure out how to encourage his friend and was surprised to find him filled with joy. He asked him why he was so joyful and he said, “Josh one day God will restore my leg in my new body and I will have an eternity to worship Him on two legs. This is the only chance I will have to worship Him on one.” This was no easy change just as I expect you haven’t gone through an easy change, but in whatever your circumstance, find a way to worship the Lord and He will not let you down.
P.S. Please don’t actually google your problems...go to Jesus