Is That Love?

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.” -1 Corinthians 13.4-5

While there are a great many things about these two verses that I could share with you guys this week, I’ve chosen to highlight, (hence the bold lettering above), the parts that I failed royally at this week.

* I’m going to be vague regarding details with the following situation, but I will not be vague on application of the lesson learned.

I was hurt recently by not being included. Oh it wasn’t because I wasn’t being included rudely or purposefully, I think it was because sometimes, because of how I present myself, people don’t think that I wound easy.

I do.

I’m much more of a marshmallow than I like to admit. And as I was in the midst of feeling sorry for myself and a little angry at those who, not meaning to, hurt my feelings….The Lord spoke to my heart seven words from 1 Corinthians 13.5...

....Love does not demand its own way.

As I allowed those words to marinate in my brain and the Holy Spirit began cooking me up some conviction...I thought about the rest of that verse….

...It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.

Hmm….well now we’ve got a three course meal of conviction happening! Because now I’m starting to see this as more than just this specific situation…...

….it’s a pattern!

I’m constantly demanding my own way!

I’m so stinking irritable!

And I’ve got a “Webster's Dictionary” sized log of being wronged!

Conclusion Mr. Holmes: I’m not as loving as I should be.

And before the feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, and depression begin to creep in….a revelation of two truths must be noted…..(p.s. This is the good part)

(1. My Savior is Completely Loving. He is our example (Philippians 2.1-8), He loved us before we were worthy and loves us when we fail (Romans 5.6-8; Ephesians 2.4-5)....and…..

(2. He’s not finished with us. God is going to complete the work that He has begun in us (Philippians 1.6), and as followers of Christ we are in process right now of becoming more and more like Him (2 Corinthians 3.18).

I took as step in this process this week, as He showed me my heart was wrong to feel hurt, entitled, and self focused. That’s not loving. That’s not Jesus.

Take a moment and thank the Lord that He is not finished with you yet. Ask Him to show you when you are being unloving, even though you may be so practiced at it that you don’t consider it a lack of love….you justify it (hey, I do this too).

Be ready for that Holy Spirit BBQ of conviction when it happens….dine at that table as often as He sets it for you.

When you finish at the table with confession and repentance, you’ll find yourself satisfied in His forgiveness.

Love you….and I mean it.

Pastor MJ